How you guys doing?…… well, I’m doing great. Today let’s talk about something that is very necessary but is not given much importance that it deserves. Yes, it’s about the “Girl Love” darling.
I know every girl out there has at least for a moment deep down her heart has envied the “ boy’s friendship”. You often see their strong bond of friendship on television, in movies especially. You know like, one friend sacrificing his love for the other or one friend dying in the hands of villains to save the other friend… right? But, have you ever wondered why there aren’t more movies featuring the friendship of girls?? Instead , you will see lot of jealousy , hatred, cat-fights for the girls. Agree?
Why is this? Of course I ain’t blaming the movies, it’s just their job in the creative field. Films are usually the reflection of the real world we live in. That is why you find difference in the cinema that is created in different countries. We are a developing nation, yes we are being quite broad-minded in this generation. We are learning to accept things as they are. We are breaking stereotypes also. But our country also deserves more of girl love which is growing nowadays and I appreciate it.
It all starts in school, in your exam halls. When girls don’t show answers or say the wrong answer while you have written the correct one. When you compare your marks with hers. When you feel insecure, jealous when she got 2 marks more than you. Remember all this you did and probably felt too in the high school? I know this thing isn’t inherent, we are not born with it. That means it can be changed. This thing of envying girls probably comes from the “ Indian mom’s mentality”. The first thing your mom asks after you tell your result is about your friends marks. And if she has got more, she says look she is doing better than you, you have to trespass her the next time. Right or wrong?
This is all we have been taught in our childhood. Its again not their fault because now we have understand that their generation did not have a courage to ask Why?? They just followed the norms without any reasoning.This attitude is being continued from ages. But this generation Is the generation of change. We are willing to change. We want to be different. We love breaking the rules. We dare to go against the norms. We are matured enough to know the right things and stand for them. You would always hear about the cat-fights between the actresses before, but now you see selfies with each other. We are learning to make new friends even though we got betrayed the last time. We are willing to give second chances. We are now spreading the girl love than before.
Now, look back to that girl who was once a challenge for you, may be now you even do not want to compare yourself with her. May be the girl who scored 90% in her boards is a medical student now or a teacher in a high school or even might have got married. But the girl with 60% in her boards may also be an IITian , a singer , a model or even an actress. The whole point is every individual is different. Every person has different talents and so does their choices. Now, how can you compare a singer and a professor? It’s a completely different field, now this doesn’t mean I am asking you to compare yourself with a colleague in the same field. All I want you to realize is that every person has different priorities. So learn to respect one’s choices. If your friend does well in her career feel good and be happy for her instead of cursing yourself because you could not. May be career was her first priority and she worked on it. May be your priorities in life are different and so you worked on some other things.
This is how the relationship builds on. Take a step forward and talk to her. Its okay to make your first move and I’m sure you will be glad you did it later on. Start introducing each other, make new friends. Stand by her when every one else is against her even if she is wrong. Not everyone is perfect. We are humans after all , we tend to make mistakes n we learn from them. Also have a kind heart to forgive her mistakes too. Because the bond you share with her is more valuable than the mistake. Spend time with each other chilling with coffee, have those girl night outs and day outs, get crazy with her. Have that emotional talk. Give her a hug and a kiss when she feels sad and lonely. Talk about your past, plan your future together. Go for shopping, have those same dresses and earrings. Tell her about the guy who just proposed you. Share that ice-cream. Get ready for a party together. Give a makeover to each other. Click those 1000 selfies. Tell her about your crush or may be about the break up u had. Tell her every damn thing. Be an open book to her only then you will learn that girls can have a great friendship too. We girls are meant to spread happiness. Why not do it together?? Trust me having “girl friends” is the best thing and you will thank me.
Let’s join hands to make this world a better place to live in. Let’s have more of “ sister from another mother”. Happy girl time!